Over the last 3 months I have seen firsthand what can happen if I love my spouse as much as I love myself.
I have looked inward and outward over the years and have noticed that it is so true that mankind is very good at taking care of self. I have watched the “spoiled brat” type person, who remains as selfish in motivation as an adult as they were when they were six years old. Then there’s the “elegant manipulator” who is so graceful and proper and ‘free of guile’, while moving a situation toward its desired outcome.
These are just two personalities but the more I observe, the more I see that we’re all selfish, we all want our outcome, we all feel that our way is best. Yes, there are levels of selfishness but across the board I see that all mankind has to struggle to desire as much for the guy next to us as for ourselves. We fool ourselves and think lofty but what about when someone prefers putting the toilet paper on the roll the other way? Those that see themselves as givers – and are from our perspective – have motivations that are in some way looking to benefit self, usually indirectly.
One of the keys to a successful and happy marriage is giving in so many and varied ways, giving and not expecting to get. Sometimes giving with no hope of getting.
Don’t hold back.
Share on Facebook
