For those who are following my reading library, I finished a book this morn! There are two chapters and a conclusion left for our group to cover but it is likely they will traverse all that while we are on vacation.

In the concluding chapters I had to cheer, rah, rah! If one reads nothing but the last two chapters and get it, they GET IT. Right between the eyes. My mantra for the last few years has been personal responsibility. It doesn’t matter what someone else says or does, I have a responsibility . These may sound like harsh cold words, but in the end what I do, how I respond, what I think, there is no excuse to pass the buck. I have to take full responsibility for MY actions.

If I have a disagreement with my spouse and I am 99.9% right and .1% in the wrong – I have to own to to mine, not keeping score or saying I’ll apologize for only .1% of what happened. I must take complete responsibility for my actions with no expectation that the 99.9% done against me requires rectification. Sure, it would be nice but MY CONCERN is MY .1%, that’s it. As long as my .1% is tied to my spouses making the 99.9% right then I AM NOT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR ME, I am blaming her. That’s it. My .1% is tied to me, the rest is not mine to judge.

In the words of one mightier and more worthy than I: “There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you- who are you to judge your neighbor? James 4:12 (NIV)